If a child is being used in any way to meet the sexual needs of another child, then it is sexual abuse.
Such an incident should be brought to the minister’s attention immediately. The minister, in consultation with the DRE, should initiate contact individually with the parents of both children to confidentially discuss the allegation and next steps.
The minister and DRE may recommend or require the parents of the children involved to seek professional evaluations for the children before they may continue to attend children’s programs and events. Depending on the state law and the nature of the incident, it may be necessary to call Child Protective Services.
It is not the responsibility of the minister or DRE to decide if abuse has occurred, but rather to assure that such an assessment takes place. The congregation will pay for an initial assessment if the funds are needed.
After such an incident, the child's religious education teachers should be informed of the allegation and the parents should closely monitor their child before and after programs and events.
The minister and DRE will decide if the situation warrants the involvement of the entire Response Team.
A meeting will be held between the Minister, DRE, and the parents after the assessment to determine if future action is necessary.
Pastoral care and support for the families involved is crucial. This situation will likely be very difficult for the parents involved, and they will need the support of their church community, especially the minister and the DRE. Helping them to feel welcome and supported is essential, as is the ongoing offer of ministry.